Improve your self concept step by step

By the end of this guide you will be three steps closer to your new self.

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In part one, we discussed how important it was to improve your self concept.

Now in part two, we will be doing an easy guide that you can use to improve your self concept.

I want you to leave this article with new knowledge you can implement in your every day life.

So we will be doing it together right now step by step.

A lot of us consume instead of execute.

We are going to change that by starting small, so that this doesn’t become overwhelming.

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Step #1

Dig into your world

Think of your ideal self concept / identity

Don’t automatically start thinking of someone you admire.

Instead I want you to tap into your younger self.

Ask yourself, what traits do I already portray, that my younger self would admire or disapprove?

Sit with it and be honest with yourself.

Use mine for reference 👇🏽

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Building on top of this we are going to flip the narrative.

In specific terms, we are going to use the polarity effect.

The polarity effect is the tendency for people to organize concepts into contrasting pairs to perceive one pole in relation to its opposite.

For example,

Good and Bad

Hot and Cold

Love and Hate

Light and Darkness

The lists goes on.

To sum that up, you can’t have one without the other.

We are going to implement this concept into improving our self concept.

If you can think negative about yourself you can think positive about yourself.

If you can recognize traits about yourself, that’s a sign you are self aware.

That’s more than enough feedback that should let you know you are capable of making this change.

We are going to leave the traits that we admire alone.

That list is a sign that we already have a foundation to build on.

For the traits we disapprove of we are going to not focus on how we don’t like them.

Instead we are going to focus on its opposite.

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Step two

One of my disapprove traits was “Okay with being late”

The opposite of mine would be “I am always on time.”

We are going to write or think about the opposite of what we wrote down for disapprove.

Here is mine for reference 👇🏽

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We now created a list of affirmation for ourselves.

An affirmation is a positive statement, a formal declaration of the truth, or emotional support.

These will be used to rewire our subconscious to embody the new identity we are affirming ourselves as.

The goal is to use repetition, to default our brain into automatically believing the new belief, without faking it until you make it.

Although “faking it until you make it” might work for some people, I don’t believe it’s sustainable for the long run.

That put me in the mind of adding something new on top of something old; instead of cleansing out the old to make room for the new.

We are starting off by acknowledging what we already identify as and using that as a stepping stone.

The disapproval we have ourselves will be flipped and used as evidence that our actions, back up our affirmations.

Action + mind shift = new self concept without abandoning who we once were.

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Step three

Create your affirmations and practice them daily.

When I say daily, I don’t expect you to have perfect days when you do every affirmation all day, everyday.

That could be overwhelming for some, so instead you can start off with one at a time.

Or with however many you can manage without feeling like you are putting on an act.

Use mine as reference to write your affirmations 👇🏽

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In due time, as you speak these affirmations, you will naturally believe you are who you affirm yourself to be.

You will no longer feel like you have to do a certain action to be, who you say you are.

Your new self concept becomes the default.

That doesn’t mean your old self concept disappeared.

It has just become something that will carry you further.

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If this helped you, be sure to share 💕.

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I created a guided journal around these ideas, with prompts focused on self-trust, awareness, independence, and affirmations for continued growth. Feel free to click the link and start your journey to a better you!

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Upcoming novel

I am currently working on the second draft of my upcoming psychological thriller novel!

Not the book cover 👇🏽

I am starting a new series this month, named The Authors Path.

It will be going live August 5th!

In this series we will discuss:

• Information for writing a book

• Steps I’m taking to publish my book

• How I created my characters

• Steps I’ve taken to market my book

• Editing & beta readers

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Join me on YouTube, for previews of my writings 🌸.

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